We’ve all been there. We have all experienced the pain that rejection can cause, whether it’s at work, at school or in relationships. But the most intense kind is perhaps the emotional rejection.
That’s when it hurts the most. Maybe because it can also trigger past rejections, from when we were kids or teenagers. And it’s not only the mental agony, it almost literally feels like a physical pain that is so hard to overcome.
But here are 4 effective ways to deal with rejection in your relationships:
1. Have reasons for each possible outcome
If you ask someone out, try to visualize the many possible outcomes. They could agree, disagree, but it also depends on the context. Try to find a reason for each of these outcomes. Say, if they say ‘no’ maybe it’s because they are already involved with someone else.
2. Prepare yourself mentally for the negative outcome
This will help you tremendously.
3. Don’t take it personally
This means you will have to be objective in your analysis of the outcomes. If someone rejects you or even breaks up with you, then it might be them.
4. Use the pain in rejection to focus on other things in your life
Try to shift your focus from the rejection story and from your partner. Maybe this is the right time to challenge yourself and accept that rejection is part of everyone’s life. Sometimes, it’s just out of our control.