No matter if it was mutually agreed upon or not, a break up can wreak havoc in our emotional life. Here are some things you can do to make the healing process easier.
1. Acknowledge the pain
Ignored pain is returning pain. So you’d better take the necessary time to grieve your loss. Otherwise, all the bottled up emotions will come to the surface when you least expect them.
2. Try to maintain healthy routines
Eating and sleeping are not things you can skip. You need all your strength to get through a major breakup and giving in to destructive tendencies is only going to make things worse.
3. Limit your contact with your ex
You could be one of those people who stay friends with your ex. Which is great, if you can really handle it. But maybe until the emotional waters clear, you should avoid unnecessary contact with the one who hurt you (or that you hurt).
4. Talk your way through the pain
Talking about your pain helps. You know that. But you might feel ashamed of your vulnerability. You have nothing to worry about. A true friend will understand and will be there for you.
Maybe the most difficult thing you need to do is to forgive your partner and to forgive yourself for the part you played in the breakup. Remember that only genuine forgiveness can set you free.
Heal at your own pace!