Poking fun at your partner can make your relationship stronger, study finds. Easy to foretell that laughter is a huge part of the relationship, but to strengthen your bond so firmly, that’s a thing that scientists are now certain about.
Any healthy relationship has to be backed by laughter, otherwise where’s the fun in it? Science now confirms that making fun of your other half can invigorate your relationship.
The happiest couples share a similar sense of humor. The easiness with which they laugh at each other and enjoy the jokes and pranks is definitive for a strong and happy pair. They make fun of each other all the time but know when to draw the line.
The study conducted by Jeffrey Hall from the University of Kansas involved over 15,000 people over the course of 30 years and underlined the critical role that humor plays in successful relationships.
“People say they want a sense of humor in a mate, but that’s a broad concept. That people think you are funny or you can make a joke out of anything is not strongly related to relationship satisfaction. What is strongly related to relationship satisfaction is the humor that couples create together”, said Hall according to news.ku.edu.
“Say you and your partner share a quirky sense of humor, but romantic comedies or sit-coms do nothing for either of you… It’s not that any style or a sense of humor is any better or worse.”
“What matters is that you both see quirky humor as hysterical. If you share a sense of what’s funny, it affirms you and affirms your relationship through laughter.”
“Having an aggressive sense of humor is a bad sign for the relationship in general, but it is worse if the style of humor is used in the relationship. If you think that your partner tells mean-spirited jokes, then it’s likely you’ve seen that firsthand in your relationship.”
“It’s not about being a great comedian, but finding what’s funny in the everyday and enjoying it together, whether that’s ‘The Simpsons’ or repeating funny things your kids say or The New Yorker cartoons or relishing in the absurdity of life. It is most important you do it together”, said Hall.
“It’s good to have humor. It’s better to see it in your partner. And it’s best to share it”.